Saturday, December 3, 2011
'She' is my mom... uugghh..i'm feeling strong enough to walk and do all the cleaning things at home but she always update all my pills.. OMG~ I'm wondering..when will i be stopped swallowing them..hmm.. i hate medicines..
**that picture is not my real pills..LOL! don't get confused~
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
But in front of the person you like, you'll get happy.
In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring .
But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.
If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush .
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.
In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind .
But in front of the person you like, you can.
In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.
But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.
You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.
When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.
So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears.
If u try to close your eyes,love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart...
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Friday, November 4, 2011
1. Listen. This is one of the hardest things to do in any relationship, "You have to really force yourself to not retort or interject anything when the other person is talking," Miller says. "This may take years of practice."
2. Validate the other person. "Validating means if you understand where they are coming from; if you know their world makes sense," McKeon says. "It’s a critical element." Try to understand how the person views life, or at the very least, how they may view a particular situation. Step into their shoes, if you will, and see things from their perspective.
3. Remember: There are no winners. This extends the idea above, and comes in handy when conflict arises. "When couples fight, the need to be right or to win is so great it hurts the relationship," McKeon says. "Couples have to get past right and wrong. Listen to the other person’s world — that helps you get beyond right and wrong."
4. Don’t personalize it. "If the person is mad, it’s not necessarily about you," Behannon says. "You can’t make their pain or disappointment your fault." If you feel like maybe you are being the scapegoat for their anger, help them to figure out what the true source of their pain is.
5. Schedule date nights. An oldie but goodie and easily forgotten. "People have to plan time for themselves and rediscover the reason they are together," Miller says.
6. It’s the tiny details. Surprise your significant other with something that shows you’re thinking about him or her. "Maybe it’s something as simple as a flower on a pillow, a hand-written note that indicates 'I am thinking about you,’ " Miller says.
7. Don’t be the source of the other person’s pain. Behannon says, "You never want to be the reason why the person you love hurts."
8. Time alone. "The other person needs to have their own things they do, that are separate from their spouse," Miller says. "This is vital." Having your own activities provides an outlet for growth in other areas. Time away also acts as a way to recharge your batteries.
9. Set boundaries. When having one of those "tough discussions," it’s important to establish areas where the conversation should go and where it shouldn’t, and perhaps even set a time limit. "Maybe this means the other person wants to wait before talking," Behannon says. "Or there are certain subjects that aren’t going to be brought up. Or the conversation will only last this long."
10. Be careful when you say "sorry." "There is an appropriate time to say this," McKeon says. "If the person starts saying 'sorry’ for everything, then they may be taking responsibility for the other person’s emotions when they shouldn’t." If one person is upset because the car has a flat tire after running over a nail, the other person has no need to offer an apology. The person apologizing has no need to say they are sorry for anything.
11. Maintain eye contact. "Don’t read or play on the computer when the other person is trying to talk to you," Miller says. "Look at the other person."
12. Forget "You." "One of the first things I focus on when communicating about the hard stuff is to drop the 'You this’ or 'You that,’" Behannon says. "They need to be 'I’ statements."
13. Keep your body language engaged. "There are physical cues our body gives away that can be louder than verbal ones," Behannon says. "You have to be mindful of what your body is saying." Slouching, folded arms, hands on hips or the rolling eyes can all be loud body language that suggests the person isn’t really engaged in a productive manner.
14. Mind PMS. "When you make a request of your partner," McKeon says, "it has to be Positive. Measurable. Specific." No need to scream or yell; just politely ask for what you want, and avoid generalities.
15. Speak their language. Don’t do something that you think you would like to do, do something they would like. Your language may say washing your partner’s car and filling it up with gas is romantic and nice, but their language may say that a bouquet of flowers and a card are better.
16. Watch your tone. If one person in the relationship has a "maximizer" tone and the other is a "minimizer," it can create conflict and make people defensive. "If you use negative tones, people get defensive," McKeon says. "You have to be conscious of what you are putting into the sacred space and each person has to take responsibility for that."
17. Schedule family time. "When you have a child, family time is the easiest thing, because that’s the one you do the most often," Miller says. "But it’s about quality family time where there is interaction and discussion."
18. Get beyond your defenses. "If I feel attacked, I go into defense," McKeon says. "If that happens, we’re not relating, and I’m too busy protecting to receive your message."
19. Listen to a problem but don’t try to fix it. Most women feel that if you are listening to them, it validates what they’ve said, McKeon says. "If you can listen and validate and empathize, it encourages autonomy. They want you to process their feelings with them — not run in and fix them. If you process their feelings, they exercise their own autonomy. If you fix a problem, it limits their autonomy." Translation: Being someone’s "toolbox" may only prevent the other person from learning how to solve the problem on their own.
20. Choose peace. "When you’re having any kind of conflict what I suggest to people is in your head say over and over, 'I choose peace rather than this,’ " Behannon says. "What that means to me is I can respond in a more peaceful way that keeps me from getting angry."
21. Be open-minded. "You can’t overtax the brain; changes are slow and gradual," McKeon says. "And the more open-minded you are, the greater the chance for growth and for real healing."
22. Observe the golden rule. "It’s such an obvious one," Behannon says. "Treat your partner the way you want to be treated."
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This one is for sure in the first place.. XDDDD...like it much! Thanks to my photographer ---->R Matthew F!
The lighting effect is still low but it's ok..still love this one!
A very nice whether to take some photos.. It was not too hot and i really enjoy the breeze.. Also the sun was so supportive! :D
A little bit dark..but it's fine because i love the pose. It's like i was in a 'hasienda'..hehe.. XD
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Stop saying my name if your lips hard to do so..
Stop holding my hand as it never give you warmth..
Stop this masquerade cos i'm gonna lose this mask.
I can't follow your rhythm,
I can't follow your beat,
This steps would be easier if i just running on my own track.
Sounds of the midnight rain..
The most wonderful music that gives inspiration.
Million of stars..
The most amazing view that give bliss..
To a tiny heart of mine.
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Talking about friendship, what do you think about it? As we grow up for each day, people's opinion and thoughts about something will change. You can't trust everyone around you even with the closest one with you. So now, what's the thing that keep running in my mind is just keep silent. Response if necessary. This is hard and i know. Oh yeah...i'm deaf and blind now.. ^^V.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Hmm.. it's been a week i have started my new sem with new people around me also the new environment and atmosphere..really enjoy with them as they make my days go brightly everyday. Oh ya! Today i played with my neighbor's dog..hahaha! he's so handsome & playful..~ Who say that it can't be tame??.. well, i'm cute enough to attract him! **perasan** I'm gonna play with him again tomorrow! yeahh~ **animal's lover** <3<3
Just saw a "tiger" under my friend's car.. It's a cat! hihi~ she's so cute.. i called her and with no doubt, she came towards me. Of course i cuddled her...huhu~ it reminds me with my cats at home. I guess she will stay with me here.. yeahh..TIGER!! I welcome you to stay here with me!! <3 Still thinking to have a hamster for me to play with..<3
Slurrppp!! **having a cup of tea** ^.^V
Waiting for my academic result for last sem. Hoho~~
Whatever it is, i hope this new year will bring more brightness in me. ^^